Do you remember the song In Your Eyes by Peter Gabriel? If you’re like me, you can hear every single word in head and karaoke it in your sleep. It’s one of those songs that once you know it, it will stay with you for a long time, like an unwanted houseguest.
And speaking of people who can annoy you, think of all the people who irk you to no end. The one that drives slow. Or the one that drives too fast. Think of your coworker or client who talks incessantly or brags all the time. Or the one that expects you to take over their workload, like right now. How about the friend who drops plans every time at the very last second? Or the relative who only shows up when there is free food or needs money? And then there is the person who chews with their mouth open. And the person who can’t look you in the eye without texting someone else…and… and…
Are a few people coming to mind? Are you feeling a little hot and itchy? Is your scowl so intense that you know exactly where you would inject your botox? This is wonderful.
We are becoming awareness.
Think about this. There have been hundreds of stories of kindness, patience, and forgiveness. We see it on the news. We see it daily in social media. I have experienced it myself about 20 years ago when my dog ran out and a woman who was driving hit him and killed him instantly. She was kind enough to stop. She was patience enough to cry with me. She apologized repeatedly. Her pain was just as great as mine and in that moment, I could feel compassion and forgiveness for her. It helped me with my own sense of overwhelming loss. And I can remember that moment like it was yesterday.
Now, back to all those people who annoy us today. How do we handle those people? Here’s the beauty. We don’t. We simply let them in.
Reflect on this. You have nothing to lose. Just do it.
-Think of someone you don’t quite get or understand.
-Take a deep breath and see them with compassion. They are just like you, trying to figure it out in this lifetime. They are doing the best they can in this moment.
-Take another breath and notice your heartbeat. Allow your heart to see from their eyes, their point of view. We are all simply human. We aren’t long for the world. We are all in this together. Feel the tension lower or vanish.
-Take another breath and see yourself with your own eyes and know that in this moment, you too, are doing the best that you can. It is enough. You are complete.
I see you. Namaste.