Eleanor Roosevelt has said, “Friendship with oneself is all-important because, without it, one cannot be friends with anybody else in the world.” She set the standard of what kind of mindset and heart set are vital to connect with the world.
“What’s the big deal?” you might ask if you Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, email, text, and play Words with Friends. While these are indeed one level of connection that should be included in your social network, it is important to have physical close proximities and relationships with people to reap the amazing benefits of having a connection with another human being. You can experience such things as a lower rate of depression, anxiety, have a stronger immune system, recover from disease faster and live a longer life. While all these things have been researched and discovered, there is still an epidemic of people who interact with hundreds of people online, but still feel extremely lonely due to have a loss of genuine connection. Here are three ways to flex your connection muscle.
- Be Real.
First, when interacting with other people or potential friends IN PERSON, your true self-needs to show up. We are all given the gift of intuition or “that gut feeling, ” and most people can tell when someone is chumming them up and is not genuine. By letting your guard down and letting your “True Colors Shine” (cue Cyndi Lauper), others will automatically do the same, and an actual connection will ignite.
- Be Attentive.
When you are in the presence of another human being, it’s customary to pay attention to them. Pay crazy attention. Not like a stalker mind you, but be focused on them as opposed to the buzzing or ringing in your pocket or purse. No one likes to play second to an iPhone. No one. Especially your closest friends. They may say that they don’t care that you are texting, but they lie. THEY DO CARE. Take note. And by paying attention to the person you are interacting with, you create a stronger deeper bond with them. And in return, they become supportive of you. You need them, and they need you.
- Be Helpful.
It is the core of our human nature to love and to be helpful. Sometimes it’s easy to get distracted when someone cuts us off, or we are having a bad day, and we continue to carry that pain and irritation with us. The best way to move through these sensations is to be helpful to someone else. By applying these three things on a daily basis, it will become a habit, and your connection with others will increase. This is why when you think of someone special in your life that you haven’t thought about in years and then they contact you the following day -it’s almost like you were practicing long distance telepathy. This is because your bond with them is very strong and you “super connect” on a higher intuitive level. By building these connections over time and throughout your life, you build a community of lifelines and love.
When times get dark, and you do need to reach out to someone, these lifelines will always be your super connections not just to “tag you,” but to see you, support you, love you, and bear witness to your journey while you’re with them on Earth. Reach out and connect. Someone is waiting for you. Namaste.
What one thing could you do today to super connect to someone new or old? Okay, now do it. Texting Cyndi Lauper doesn’t count.