Courage Alert – 3 Ways To Super Connect With Anyone

Reach out in presence.

Eleanor Roosevelt has said, “Friendship with oneself is all-important because, without it, one cannot be friends with anybody else in the world.” She set the standard of what kind of mindset and heart set are vital to connect with the world.

“What’s the big deal?” you might ask if you Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, email, text, and play Words with Friends. While these are indeed one level of connection that should be included in your social network, it is important to have physical close proximities and relationships with people to reap the amazing benefits of having a connection with another human being. You can experience such things as a lower rate of depression, anxiety, have a stronger immune system, recover from disease faster and live a longer life. While all these things have been researched and discovered, there is still an epidemic of people who interact with hundreds of people online, but still feel extremely lonely due to have a loss of genuine connection. Here are three ways to flex your connection muscle.

  1. Be Real.

First, when interacting with other people or potential friends IN PERSON, your true self-needs to show up. We are all given the gift of intuition or “that gut feeling, ” and most people can tell when someone is chumming them up and is not genuine. By letting your guard down and letting your “True Colors Shine” (cue Cyndi Lauper), others will automatically do the same, and an actual connection will ignite.

  1. Be Attentive.

When you are in the presence of another human being, it’s customary to pay attention to them.  Pay crazy attention. Not like a stalker mind you, but be focused on them as opposed to the buzzing or ringing in your pocket or purse. No one likes to play second to an iPhone. No one. Especially your closest friends. They may say that they don’t care that you are texting, but they lie. THEY DO CARE.  Take note. And by paying attention to the person you are interacting with, you create a stronger deeper bond with them. And in return, they become supportive of you. You need them, and they need you.

  1. Be Helpful.

It is the core of our human nature to love and to be helpful. Sometimes it’s easy to get distracted when someone cuts us off, or we are having a bad day, and we continue to carry that pain and irritation with us. The best way to move through these sensations is to be helpful to someone else. By applying these three things on a daily basis, it will become a habit, and your connection with others will increase. This is why when you think of someone special in your life that you haven’t thought about in years and then they contact you the following day -it’s almost like you were practicing long distance telepathy.  This is because your bond with them is very strong and you “super connect” on a higher intuitive level. By building these connections over time and throughout your life,  you build a community of lifelines and love.

When times get dark, and you do need to reach out to someone, these lifelines will always be your super connections not just to “tag you,” but to see you, support you, love you, and bear witness to your journey while you’re with them on Earth. Reach out and connect. Someone is waiting for you. Namaste.

What one thing could you do today to super connect to someone new or old? Okay, now do it. Texting Cyndi Lauper doesn’t count.

 

Intuition Alert: Wisdom is Under Your Nose.

And just like that, wisdom and love are under your nose.

 

Trying to make sense of life’s lessons? Your teacher is under your nose.

Failed relationships. Not being able to stick with the program. Eating the greasy, salty chips anyway. Old and sick pets. Old and sick people. Running out of time. Not enough of anything. Tired. Of. It. All.

This is life. This is your life.

Take a look what is around you at this moment? What do you see? Is it a stack of magazines and leftovers? Are you surrounded by to-do lists and undone laundry? Or are you surrounded by pictures of things, or family you love?   Everything around is designed in its own way to teach us awareness.   From the sunshine that is coming in outside to the dying plant in the corner, all things can help guide us to what we need in the present moment. We can learn from anything and anywhere. Truly.

You may say, What?!! I’m completely overloaded already. How can I take in what a bag of Fritos is trying to say to me?   Fret not. This innate wisdom is the amazing gift of being human. And the answers to your life lessons can be found from the teachers that appear right under your nose. Yes, it’s true we do have many things vying for our attention at all times. Your quest is to discover the ones that feel right in your gut, in your intuition, or in your soul’s alignment.

The chips in front of your face may be teaching you that you need to take more time for yourself. The plant that’s dying in the corner is a reminder that you too need sun and water to flourish. Your elderly dog with the light fading from his eyes is teaching you to love now because there may be no tomorrow.

If you approach life and the people and experiences that come into your pathway with a sense of wonder, mysteries can be unlocked every day. Just remember to bring patience and humility to this task.   So if you ever catch yourself feeling overwhelmed, feeling lost, or in the dark, never fear, just look around at this moment for who or what is trying to teach you, to guide you or to simply love you. Namaste.

Courage Alert: Searching for Success? Try Uncommon Appreciation.

Want Success? Search for Appreciation.

 

Change. Change. Change. Every day, I am blessed to work with people who want better for themselves in this lifetime. It takes on many forms such as relationships, jobs, financial security, business relations, to find their soul’s purpose or to simply fit in a smaller pair of stretch pants.

This is great. We are always in a state of change. This is our nature. Like a plant, if we are not growing, we are dying. But there is a secret to getting what you believe you desire and enjoying the process along the way. The secret is to practice “uncommon appreciation.” (Cue the universal eye roll).

Hang on to your stretch pants for a moment. Think about how you navigate in the world for a minute. Do you long for meaningful relationships whether in business or your personal life but flip off people on the highway? Are you constantly judging people on how they dress, drive, act and make it a sport? Do you call out on social media of how wrong people are?   Did you rip one to the poor soul who is a telephone customer service rep in Manila because “You’re the customer, damn it”? Did you even look the person who was serving you today your groceries or coffee and say, “Thank you”?

We have all done it at one time or another. It happens. We are human. But if we want to be beings who are living to our highest potential, we have to live and raise our vibrational level to a higher state. This state is appreciation. To boost this level for maximized effect, practice uncommon appreciation.   Simply be grateful. For everything. For everyone. By making this a daily practice, you start the cycle of success. Your appreciation leads to gratitude; your gratitude leads to abundance. With abundance comes generosity towards others. This abundance can come in several forms at once such as financial opportunities, connection, or adventures.

If you take a moment to reflect, think about the last time you gave someone something. It could have come in the form of money, helpful advice, or a prayer. Remember how that person felt and in return, how you felt.   The sensation should feel like an expansion of yourself. It’s better than a beer buzz. When you are in this state, then you are elevating yourself to the possibilities to be more and to give more. You expand on a universal level and spiritual level.   Business meetings go smoother; it’s easier for you to find your purpose in life or love, and to shop for smaller stretch pants. Thank you. I appreciate you. Truly. Now, be successful. Namaste.

Courage Alert: How to Ride the Road to A Bigger Love

Get ready to ride!

 

Most people want their dream job, their soulmate, to live with passion, to be happy in the present moment. Who doesn’t? When I ask them what that job, soulmate, or desire look like, many times I get a look of confusion and a face as if I asked them if they have syphilis.

 

But when I ask them what they don’t want they can give me a list that is miles and miles long. These just a few real comments that I have heard…

 

I hate jobs that I have to work with the public. I hate jobs where people are telling me what to do all the time. I hate men who don’t pick up after themselves or can’t talk about their feelings. I hate men who dress like a trucker. I hate women who are so selfish. I hate women who don’t take care of themselves. I hate people who wear socks and slippers when shopping. I hate people who ride up on my ass in traffic or at grocery stores. I hate boring or late people. I hate being bored. I hate worrying. I hate not sleeping. I hate worrying about how to pay for my… (fill in the blank), I hate bratty children in public. I hate…

 

This state of being is what I call “Judgment Road.” It’s the quick road to nowhere.

 

It is common for us to make judgments about things in our lives. Each day we are bombarded with an unfathomable amount of information, and our brain is trying to categorize it for us. Is this good? Is this bad? Will this kill me? How many calories is it? Will I pay for this later? We are hardwired for this for survival. The key word is here is survival.

 

But when it comes to manifesting your blessings and desires, it’s necessary to put the brakes on a judgment. When you are in a non-judgmental state, you open up to many things. Your thinking is freed up, and you are not filling your mind with endless chatter that creates stress about how things or people should be. You are more in tune to your needs and can address them. You are more present and less distracted when you are in the presence of another. You can actually “see” them, and they can see you. You make a better connection. You can discover intuitively better options and clarity for your life. Things feel clearer, lighter, and more like love.

 

Try this today. When you start to encounter your day, notice when you start labeling and judging from the get go. When you catch yourself doing this, don’t beat yourself up and judge yourself either. Just acknowledge it and remind yourself that you don’t need these thoughts or roadblocks in this moment of your life.

 

Mother Teresa embodied this when she said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” She was on the fast track to love.

 

So today, be kind to yourself, put the brakes on judgment and look at your wide-open road of possibilities and big love. Namaste.

Courage Alert: The Power of Questions. Ask Better. Live Better

There’s got to be a better way, yes?

Ask yourself a question. Who is the single most person you interact with each day? Who do you call, text, FB, Twitter, Skype, or follow? After you have gone through your short list of celebrity and real BFFs, close friends, family, fringe friends, who is left? The person you are going to spend the most time with on this planet is simply you. 

Whether conscious or not, you are asking yourself at least hundreds of questions if not more in a day. Do any of the following sound remotely familiar?

Why am I always tired? Why did I eat that? Why do I always get behind people like this in line? Why are people so stupid? Why am I so stupid? Why isn’t there any money in my bank account? Why do things like this always happen to me? Why do I fall in love with the same person? Why do I put up with this? Why don’t things happen the way I want it? Why don’t I ever listen to my gut? Why do my kids/pets always do this?

If any of the statements feel uncomfortable but familiar, that’s fantastic! This sensation means you are not alone on this planet in how you talk to yourself. However, if questions are going to to be a part of your life, here’s how to get the most bang per your buck, or in this case question.

Reframe your question so that it serves you and moves you in the direction you want to go in or at least lean into. To do this, slow down to be mindful and intentional. By slowing down, you create the shift that you need, and you are NOT living life as a reaction or your mind’s reaction. “But what does that sound like or look like?”. This is a better question.

For example, you might ask, “Why am I always tired?”.  Try, “What can I do to bring more energy into my life now and enjoy the process?”. This question doesn’t focus on the problem. It focuses on more of more of what you need and less of what you don’t need. You can use this new perspective or shift for any questions. Instead of, “ Why isn’t there any money in my bank account?” to ” What could I do right now to either save or create more streams of income?” Now you may not get the perfect and complete answer right away, but it will help you in the process of your desired outcome. If you ask, “Why do I always get involved with toxic people,” you may want to ask, “How can I find and spend time with people who will love and energize me?” You keep asking the question until you get your desired result. This shift may feel a little awkward at first, like your first kiss. But down the line, it became worth it, right?

Same thing. Now, isn’t this worth trying because it’s your life and you are worth it? You already know the answer. Namaste.

With a shift of intention, what better question should you ask yourself today to get the life experience you want?

 

 

Courage Alert: How to Be Fearless

 

You got this. Really.

Fear. Just saying or reading the mere word of “fear” can leave us with a feeling of uncertainty and unease. We face fear in hundreds of little ways each day as we think or ask ourselves series of questions. Will I be okay? Will she be okay? Will she make it today? Am I safe? Is my job safe? Does he still love me? Will she still love me after this? Do I have enough gas? Do I have enough money? Does anything even matter? Is there physically something wrong with me? Is the cancer back? Is he drinking again? Can I get through this?   Our day-to-day challenge is how to be satisfied and grateful for the day when all we have is this never-ending sensation of doom and despair. Here are three steps to being fearless. Hang on to your superhero cape.

Step 1: Acknowledge the fear and the sensation that goes with it.

If you don’t accept your fear, it will manifest you in your denial through other activities that don’t serve you such as eating, drinking, spending or any other distraction. These are temporary fixes, and the fear will grow like a weed without attention. By stopping for a moment and being present and recognizing in your mind or out loud the fear and where you are feeling the uncomfortable sensation in your body, you begin to lesson the vice grip hold it has on you. You may not have your all the answers you need, but by moving in this direction, you will feel a lifting.

Step 2: Remember when you were brave.

Fear is like most things in our lives, it comes and goes. So when it shows up again, it is imperative to remember all the other times in your lifetime where you were brave and made the better decisions, took actions that helped instead of hurt, and loved despite all odds. You have gone through tough times. You are still here. You are still brave. You still matter. You are bigger than this.

Step 3: Be present, chunk it down and take action.

If you do these two steps and are still feeling the squeeze, it is important to be mindful of this present moment and discover the gratitude that you are here and alive. If you don’t know what next steps to take, then take the smallest, even tiniest in the direction that you want to lean into. This motion of action will help your focus on possibilities, potential, and healing. In these fast-paced times, we can all feel like we live in a whirlwind of fear. Sometimes the best things we can do is, “be still” and breathe. And by embracing the gratitude of being here on this Earth at this time, we can feel the wind underneath our capes. Namaste.

How can you be fearless today?

Courage Alert: Paying the Price for the Life you Want

Pay the price. It’s your fabulous life.

You are alive TODAY. Whatcha want? Whatcha really, really want?

The great thing about being alive today is there are an infinite amount of ways to live, thrive and contribute. Your life is a creative expression in action. How you create, this is up to you.

To be a success in life, you must focus on what you want, and know why you want it. The real work and manifestation of your desires and goals are in paying the price.

Whether your goal is to change jobs, move to a new city, start your own business, train for a marathon or find your soulmate, it is essential to put forth the effort and focus. Every day. And again. For an uncertain amount of time and even if it causes uneasiness, exhaustion, and fear.

Paying the price isn’t always easy and can be very challenging. It’s designed to be this way for a higher purpose for you to become the more evolved and fantastic you.

Every time you desire something new in your life, the universe provides you with the opportunity to rise to this challenge. You must be willing to make the changes to do what it takes to become this newer being.

In other words, you have to pay the price for this new experience. In our very fast paced life, results are expected and successful ones at that on a daily basis. However, the universe responds to what we need for growth, not by how fast we need it.

With this in mind, be willing to take the steps, quickly or slowly, whether they are easy or insanely impossible, to attain your goals and desires. This includes practicing every day by moving in the direction toward your desire. And remember sometimes setbacks are necessary to correct our course on our path when paying the price.

By being mindful of what you desire, and putting forth the effort and attention in that area, you build momentum. Tons of it. It will be this momentum that will carry you through all the stages toward your goal – the thrill and fantasy of dreaming up what you want, going through the awkward phase of trying to figure out how to get there, and then finally recognizing what the price is for having what you want.

There may be a point where you finally realize what this price requires from you in terms of time and effort and trade-offs, and you need to decide if it’s worth it.

This is where being mindful and using your intuition is of great use. Yes, there will be times of doubt, but only you will know if you should keep going and if you will continue to pay the price to reach your dreams.

 

Anything worth having in this lifetime isn’t easy by design. You’re desires and goals are meant to stretch you and transform you to a newer (more enlightened) you. As you go through this process, you can check in with yourself and feel the sensations of openness (lightness) or tightness. These physical sensations will guide you whether you are on the right course or if you need to redirect your energies elsewhere. If you do feel you are right on track, then keep going and pay the price until you manifest what you want and then you can work on your next adventure of soul growth. And then start paying the price again.

That’s why life is price-less. Go get it. Namaste.

 

 

 

Mindful Alert: How to Hang with the Moment in 3 Steps

 

We rush. We rush from bed to coffee. Coffee to the door. Door to car. Then we are off to another busy day of busyness. There is no taste from the food that nourishes us. Our work fills the time clock. Our conversations with others become an afterthought. We are caught in the doing, and thinking ahead. We are ahead. We are too much in our heads. We come home full of thoughts and things to do. We are worried, angry, fearful that we didn’t get enough done, and that there is still to a lot to be done… we are running out of time. And then we jump on the computer, phone, or television to use up as much time as we can to avoid the unpleasantness of simply being still.

 

How do we slow down? How do we get it all done? How do we become more with doing less?

 

We simply take a few steps to bring mindfulness to it. Find a seat. Sit a spell. And breathe. 

 

Step One: Think of all the activities, communications and work you have to do or believe you have to do. Experience the constrictive feeling in your body. Where does it feel uncomfortable? Where does it feel tight? Feel it squeezing you until there is no more air.

 

Okay, breathe. 

 

Step Two: Take a few deep breaths and look at your hands and clasp them together. Notice how far they have brought you into the world and through all your experiences.

Acknowledge that today is the only day you know you have at this moment.

 

Breathe again.

 

Step Three: Now, open your hands up, palms up, gently and slowly. Visualize what kind of day you would choose to have if this were your last. Next, as you go through your day, be intentional and let go of anything that doesn’t provide you with abundance, joy, love, and peace. If you catch yourself rushing again, be kind and look down at your hands again. Then hang on to the things that mean everything at this moment. Breathe and feel the gratitude that you are still breathing today. Peace to you.

Courage Alert: How to Stop Fighting with Joy

Enough with the Fighting.

 

 

Respect the Joy.

Have you ever noticed when you have some exciting news and tell someone you numb it or dumb it down when it comes to its joy level? For instance, you got your dream job or dream lover, and someone congratulates you, and you say, “well, we’ll see if it lasts long…”

Or perhaps you are looking white hot fabulous and someone compliments you and you say, “Thanks, but maybe you should have your eyes checked.”

I have the awesome privilege of working with amazing human beings each day. Everyone is in search of love, peace, worthiness and joy. When we start working together on their path and they start to move toward joy… people FREAK OUT. They sabotage themselves. They lower their expectations so they can raise their certainty about their lives. “Oh, I knew this wouldn’t work out… it never does.”

Don’t settle for certainty. That’s not truth and not YOUR TRUTH.

The truth is Joy is FIERCE. Everyone wants it, but you have to OWN it.

Joy is a positive feeling, and it’s a feeling of POWER. Its power is gigantic, uncertain and unpredictable and sometimes wildly fantastic.

When it comes to joy and power and mingling with the people of our lives, we are always judging each moment to make sure that we don’t hit overkill with feelings of overjoy.

Because…

they will compare their lives with ours, and they won’t like us

they won’t get promoted that way

they don’t want to be too special

they don’t want to be too sexy

they don’t want to be too happy

 

Joy was meant to be yours. And yours alone. It’s your power. It’s your present moment. If other people handle can’t handle it, IT IS OKAY. You will live and so will they.

 

If I give you a present and you don’t want it, whose present is it? It’s still mine.

If people give you a box of crap and you don’t want it? Whose present is it? It’s theirs. 

Isn’t it cool how that works?

 

The moral lesson of the story is…Don’t take people’s crap in boxes or otherwise. But remember to keep your joy always.  It’s your superpower to the present moment. And with all power comes great responsibility. So use your joy for good. Now carry on joyfully and be FIERCE. Namaste

 

Courage Alert: How to Feng Shui Your Friends.

Springtime. It is that time of year when we are itching to Feng Shui our house, spring clean our closets, and get the weeds out of our gardens. Why stop there?

 

Think of the people you encounter every single day. Think of their energy. When you think of particular friends, coworkers, family or lovers, do you smile or secretly cringe? If you do the latter, then it’s probably time to Feng Shui your peeps. You will find that those whom you need to unclutter from your life fall into three main categories:

 

The Downer

The Toxic Terror

The Timeless One

 

Does any of these feel familiar?

 

The Downer/Victim is the one who comes in your space and nothing is ever right. They lost their job. They are sick. They have no friends, and they will tell you. They have no money. They have no self-esteem. Nothing ever works out for them. The downer has nothing to offer you, and they simply want your attention all the time. They feel that if they don’t have a sad story (the sadder, the better), then they have no significance. The upside for them is that if they can find a sap to listen to their story, then they get attention, sympathy, and significance. And if you hang around long enough you leave lower than you were when you first encountered them.

 

Next on the list is the Toxic Terror. They are similar the Downer, except they use injustice and rage to feel important. They are the ones who will tell you that they got “screwed” or how the world is “screwed up” or that there is “no justice.” They look for the bad in a situation so they can happily say, “I told you so,” or, “I knew it would happen.” They piss in your cornflakes. They mock your joy. They are afraid to be happy because they don’t want to appear weak, plus, it takes away from their identity and their certainty of being righteously wrong. Hang around them long enough and watch your cortisol levels rise and your cornflakes wilt.

 

Third, we have the Timeless One. You know this one. The one that says they will call and doesn’t. The one that says they will show up and doesn’t. The one who constantly forgets. They apologize profusely only to forget again at the next opportunity. The good news is they won’t pee in your cornflakes because they are the flakes.

 

So how do you Feng Shui these people from your life, or at least your breathing space?

 

You don’t have to chase these folks with a broom or a Dyson, although if you could, it would be a much quicker process. But if you have people that constantly lie, steal, or abuse you in any way, then it is imperative that you remove yourself from this type of energy, or at the very least minimize your exposure until you can.

 

The first step is to identify them. Easy. You know who they are.

 

Next, you truly have to clean up your own energy. Become mindful and practice self-care, taking action on what will serve you best. Is their energy helping or hurting?

 

If you determine that they are bringing toxicity to your life, then decide to release them. When you “decide,” which means to “cut off,” you are consciously making the decision to control your energy field and exist in a space that supports nurtures, and brings you joy. The optimal word is joy.

 

When you are in joy, you resonate a higher vibrational energy. The Downer and the Terror don’t know what to do with that energy because it’s not aligned with them, and as a result, your resilience makes them feel uncomfortable. It will be a challenge for them to stay with you. As for the Timeless One, you can just choose to let them run on their own time and not yours. And this allows you to go on your joyful way.

 

Why should you even give a Feng Shui about the people around you and their energy? The answer is simple.

 

If you look at our time on Earth, every day counts. There isn’t a day to squander away in a dirty space with people that pollute your life. Living in Joy is your birthright as a human being in this amazing Universe. Elevate your energy and Feng Shui the people that don’t contribute to your life. And when you set them, and yourself, free, you can finally enjoy fresh air and fresh cornflakes. Namaste.