During the holiday season, it is common to get caught up in the excess of events, emotions, family and friends. We strive to capture happiness in all forms. Right around the corner, the New Year emerges and again it is easy to get overwhelmed with the “newness” and pressure that we must drastically change ourselves to grasp happiness.
Even over 2300 years ago, the great philosopher and teacher Aristotle noticed that happiness was the one common denominator that all women and men desired. It still hasn’t changed.
So how do we create happiness? Do we set the same resolutions as last year such as lose weight, drink less, grow your business, find your spirit, find a lover, have a baby, buy a house, find our dream job, save money, reduce our debt or watch every episode of Madmen, Walking Dead, Breaking Bad or Housewives… and just change the date at the end?
Are we stuck in the bad sitcom rerun that is called “Our Life”? No.
One of the main reasons why it’s a challenge for us creatures of habit to change our lives with resolutions is that many times it feels like a “need to” or “should” instead of a MUST and our lives or happiness depend on it.
If you would like this year to be a different experience, then TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT. As with all goals, it is still important to write your intentions down. This becomes more tangible and present than just allowing the notion to pass through your mind.
After writing down the goals or intentions, it is important to attach YOUR BIGGEST MEANING OF HAPPINESS. For example, you can say that you want to lose 20 pounds, or 50 pounds, but there is no big meaning of happiness to it. It just sounds and feels like a great deal of painful crap. Who wants a serving of that?
Try something like this, instead of saying “losing” (no one ever wants to lose anything) you can state your intention of “I want to weigh ___ pounds so that I can feel lighter, feel more attractive, have more fun and smile more to people. I want more energy to fix my house, save all the homeless animals, save the planet, run a marathon and just to enjoy each day with more passion and gratitude.” Can you feel the energy of that higher intention? That’s flow.
Your flow mojo comes on a daily basis to honor your intentions. By taking consistent little steps and knowing you are taking the necessary action to manifest the desires that will lead you to a happier state of mind, you will want to live and move in that direction.
You will start doing the things you desire because it feels right and effortless. You will be mindful of the moment that you are in and this leads to your own definition of happiness. His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama has suggests, “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
So try it. Resolve to create intentions that are attached to your big meaning of happiness. And be mindful of consistently leaning in that direction. Here’s to you mojoing and flowing to your true happiness. Peace to You.