Every day when we wake up, there are many things we need to face. Some good some, not so good, and some things neutral.
And then there are those things.
You know those things that really gnaw on us. Chew on us throughout the day. Things like: I need to change my job, I need to get a better education, I need to change my relationship status, I need to lose weight, I need to move, I need to go to the doctor. I need to go to see my family. I need to save money so I don’t eat cat food when I’m older. I need to find “me”. I need more fun in my life. I need more peace. I need more happiness. I need more love.
We feel stuck in our little hopscotch of life. And we just continue to go through our day with the job we have and the people we are with and the situations we are in because we simply don’t have the time to do anything different. We don’t have time in our hectic, crazy lives to make a change. So we just stay in our box and let life gnaw on us, right?
“No thank you”, I say. As fantastic human beings we were designed for awesomeness.
We just need to get to step up and step out!
Step 1: STEP UP
The first step is literally to step UP.
This means to step back and look where you are in your life. This is meant to be simply reflective, not judgmental. If you were looking at your life from another’s point of view (someone who cared about you), you may come across some very important insights that you didn’t have time to notice. For example, you may notice there are some problems you have been avoiding, putting off or even putting up with that no longer serve you or the path you’d like to be on. As you are going through this process, it may feel a little uncomfortable at first. No one wants to face that they may need to find a new job, leave a relationship, try tolose weight when it hasn’t worked in the past, go to the doctor because it might be something scary, or saving money when there isn’t any left to save. Let this uncomfortable feeling serve you because it’s your intuition asking you to address your concerns. Listen to it. And keep stepping
Step 2: STEP WITH YOUR GUT.
The second step is to step intuitively.
In other words, listen to your gut. You have now indicated some big things in your life that you need to change. Great. Now, what? Because you still have to get gas, get coffee and go to work. This is the great part about your brain and intuition. By taking a moment to clarify what you DO want from what you DON’t want, you can let your subconscious mind work on it while you are doing something else. If you tell your brain, “I need a new job,” or “I need to move to Austin”, or “I need to be healthy and make better food and exercise choices,” your brain will search for the means throughout your day. But the real secret is that you need to be able to slow down and see these ideas and allow your intuition to help guide you with the choices that make the most sense and are aligned to you. Listen to your intuition when it comes to what you can control in this moment to help you. Or what can you change in this moment that would mean the most to you and your life.
Step 3: PICK YOUR FIRST STEP
Sometimes when you start thinking about making changes, you have the dilemma of having too many steps and then you get all freaky and freeze and do nothing. It’s often called the paralysis of analysis. So here’s what you can do when you feel that coming on. Pick one step. It can be a big one or a small one. Doesn’t matter. This first step will help lead you to the next. You will have created an understating with yourself that change is necessary and you are the catalyst. Just do it. In creating the first step, there aren’t mistakes to be made, only experience to be gained. So step out on your first step.
Step 4: START TWO-STEPPING
Change is hard. It was designed that way to make you who you are. To find life that is amazing and has meaning, it doesn’t mean you have to go solo. When you need to make a change of any kind in your job, lover, car, home, or health, find a friend to help you start “two stepping”. By having someone else physically hear what you desire, you are now proclaiming to the world that you’re ready to step out and want change. By having a friend who is emotionally invested in you, you have someone to make you accountable or listen to you when things get tough. Or tell you, “I knew you could do it.”
In the end, this is your life. This is your hopscotch. You can stand on one leg and stay on your square until you are ready to get out of it. And by stepping back and discovering what you really want, listening to your intuition, taking a first step and enlisting a friend, you will already be steps ahead in the game of Life. Enjoy the win. Namaste.